'We taught our daughters to be strong women, but we didn’t teach our sons to handle that:' TikToker Discusses Her "Lost Generations" Theory On Why Millennial and Gen Z Women Are Dating Less

Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor

Feb 24, 2023 4:00 PM EST

Remember the classic '90s and early oughts Rom-Coms that showed the mom that had it all?! Here's an example: Mrs. Doubtfire. Back in the day when you watched that movie, you probably felt bad for the dad and thought the mom was being mean. However, millennial and Gen Z women have and continue to grow up and see the reality—that this hard working mother was tossed into a family where she had to do absolutely everything and it was making her very unhappy (like it would anybody!). She had the full-time job, she cleaned, cooked, raised the kids, and then was expected to swoon at her husband who brought an entire pony inside of the house?! We all love Robin Williams over here, but come on. That marriage had zero equality when it came to sharing a life together.

THAT is exactly what TikToker "Krystal Clear" discusses in her "Lost Generations" theory. She explains the reason why millennial and Gen Z women are dating less and it is because of our mothers. Our mothers, the Boomers and Gen X, grew up striving to be the "have it all" kind of mothers they were encouraged to be from their mothers. Their mothers, from the "greatest generation" or "silent generation", fought for their rights to vote and to make it illegal to beat your wife, so the bar was low. They had to introduce feminism slowly, which meant they still did their "household duties" while simultaneously proving they can do all that on top of joining the workforce. It was revolutionary… at the time.

Boomer and Gen X women, however, grew up thinking they too had to "have it all"—a family and full time high-paying job and not give any of that up. However, us millennials and Gen Z kids grew up seeing our mothers do EVERYTHING and our fathers expect to have everything done, so we thought "nope, not for me" and the boys being raised thought "wow, that is what I want!"

So now we have men expecting us to give them the same thing our mothers promised, but us resisting. We want true equality, that means if you're trying to date us, you better be willing to take turns washing the dishes and doing the laundry. Because we will choose the peace of being single over being your new "mommy" any day of the week.

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